vows

photo by patricia espedal

there are words said at weddings.  they’re more important than the after-party and certainly more beautiful than the flowers.

these were our words — our promises — to one another on our wedding day:

Joe: Do you Brooke take Tim, to be your husband, to have and to hold, to love and to cherish, in sickness and in health, being faithful to him alone as your only love, giving him the first and best of your heart til death do you part?

Brooke: I do.

and…

I, Brooke, take you, Tim, to be my husband, secure in the knowledge that you will be my constant friend, my faithful partner in life, and my one true love.

On this day, I affirm to you in the presence of God and these witnesses my sacred promise to stay by your side as your faithful wife in sickness and in health, in joy and in sorrow, in poverty and in riches, through the difficult and the easy.

I promise to love you without reservation, trust and honor you, comfort you in times of distress, call forth the best in you, laugh with you and cry with you, pursue unity with you in all things, grow with you in mind and spirit, always be open and honest with you, and cherish you for as long as we both live.

As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep. So help me God.

Entreat me not to leave you, or to return from following after you, for where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people, and your God will be my God. And where you die, I will die and there I will be buried. May the Lord do with me and more if anything but death parts you from me.

and…

I give you this ring as a symbol of my vow to you. I humbly give you my hand and my heart as a sanctuary of warmth and peace, and pledge my faith and love to you. And with all that I am and all that I have, I honor you, in the Name of our Father, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit.

i pray, by the grace of God, to grow up into them. already, i can see that satan is hell bent against their fulfillment and my own flesh is often an uncooperative partner. but we have the mark of Grace on us, and that is no small thing.

having now so vowed ourselves

having just been pronounced

yesterday at about this time, i married tim. and, alongside him, consecrated myself (us) to God.

it was PERFECT.

we were surrounded by a beautiful cloud of witnesses. danny’s song raised us up as i came down the aisle, eyes fixed on my Love. the st. adalbert’s church bells rang during communion (the wine for which Tony inadvertently spilled). the infamous west side ice cream truck went by and tim pretended to chase it down (yes, during the ceremony). jess nearly passed out. pop eye started a cackle, aborted by jenn, while big tim exclaimed “beautiful!” aloud following our vows. colorful fabrics edged the yard of the stockbridge boiler room. our spiritual fathers married us — joe all animated eloquence, tony sincere and pleased. tim’s mom walked down the aisle on her son and husband’s arms with her head raised high, laughing. tears streamed down tim’s cheeks when he said his vows while i was clear and steady. the worship led by michael was anointed and i raised my hand to heaven, truly having entered into His presence there. the words we spoke to one another and the Father were weighty and lovely, and accurate expression of covenant.we were present. fully.

and now… right now he beside me on the picnic table behind the hytta writing a song about our infant marriage.

today i know him with tenderness, vulnerability and pleasure.

we belong to one another now, he and i.

yummy GF cake by Marie Catrib

placing objects in a yet empty home

today is the first day of our lease on our new home. so early this afternoon we picked up the keys from our landlord.

taking nothing other than three thoughtfully chosen objects, we went and let ourselves in to those cleared-out spaces with blank-canvas walls. we stood there in the sunlight living room, embraced, and called each other roommate.

we put a plant in the window of the living room. it’s a plant that my dear friend heather gave me. she took a couple of clippings from a plant in her own home and gave them to be in a small vase of water at my bridal shower last month. she said it would grow it’s own roots and could then be replanted into soil, in a pot, and that in this way she was giving me something living from their home to ours. earlier this week i got a pot, scooped some soil from the neglected beds behind the house, and planted those clippings. this living thing — which i am determined to keep that way — is symbolic of that new and replanted life that tim and i are about to begin. it also reminds me of the connection we have to our friends in Michigan and the life of our friends that they share with us.

we put a lantern in the bedroom. it’s a lantern that we found at a yard sale in Milwaukee one weekend. drawn to it immediately, we forked out the $4 to take it home with us. it holds a single votive candle. we found a hook in the ceiling, near a corner, in the master bedroom and that’s where we decided to put the lantern, resolving to place our bed beneath it. it will symbolize the light that leads us home to one another, and the love that we’ll fight to keep lit between us.

we put a framed photograph of ourselves, together and sitting on a kitchen floor, on the counter in the kitchen. tim thought the frame looked good juxtaposted with the counter-top tile. to have our faces represented in that otherwise barren apartment says that “these are the people who make their home here.” and we resolved long ago that frequent sitting on kitchen floors would be a hallmark of our relationship.

so the christening is complete. and now the grunt work…

(check back later when i’ve added photos of these three objects)